A short while after I woke up today morning I checked my facebook page for some inspirational quote, and lo! I found this.
I have been thinking of the declining willingness in today's generation to bend their back! and feel this quote kind of helps me put these thoughts together.
All through my childhood, growing up as the only child to my parents it seems to me that my parents should have logically pampered me. I thanks them today for the emphasis they put on hardwork and patience. I increasingly find this emphasis on hard-work becoming a rarity thesedays.
Most of the students I interact with have grown up in with a lot more attention from their parents (unlike the old Indian kids where the parental attention was divided between almost half a dozen kids!). The higher attention typically translates to parental attempts in ensuring the kid almost everything (s)he wants! Beginning to rely completely on the "remote culture" as I call it. An extremely easy way to get things done - almost at the click of a button!
While this parental attention is great, the repercussions begin impacting nearly a decade and half later, when they are either doing their graduation or are in their work environments. The certainty that was so much a part of the growth years, all of a sudden seems to disappear and the harder realities of life which require one to stretch and get the better of oneself takes over.
The reactions of the individual in these situations is to either accept the new norm and retain the current pace of activity, or to try and push and may be eventually give up. The major issue is when one stops experimenting and exploring and eventually morphing to be ready for the challenges of everyday life.
If there is someone who can change what we want to change it is us alone.
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Exactly!! its important for parents not to be over protective about their kids, Kids should be allowed to do mistake and learn.
Only when you fall, you learn to get up and build the confidence that, you can do that again!!
Exactly!! its important for parents not to be over protective about their kids, Kids should be allowed to do mistake and learn.
Only when you fall, you learn to get up and build the confidence that, you can do that again!!
Exactly, parents should stop being over protective and let the kids do their own mistakes and learn from it. Only when you fall, you learn to get up.
Thanks Shruthi, Yes you are right. Being over protective definitely kills the aspiration for growth in some cases.
There is always a possibility that one could hide behind the approach that I donot want my kids to face the same difficulty as me... it is the boundary that needs to be figured out.
ಧನ್ಯವಾದ, ಹೌದು ಬಿದ್ದರಷ್ಟೇ ಎಳಬ್ಬೆಕೆಮ್ಬ ಛಲ ಹುಟ್ಟಲು ಸಾಧ್ಯ. ತಾಯಿ ತಂದೆಯರ ಪ್ರೀತಿ ಮತ್ತು ವಾತ್ಸ್ಯಲ್ಯ ಮಗುವಿಗೆ ಬಾಧಕ ವಾಗಂತೆ ಎಚ್ಚರ ವಹಿಸಬೇಕು
I can so relate to it,
especially with girls
we are never allowed to decide for ourselves..
as kids its always parents and then after marriage its husband and in-laws
and when they get out its their kids who decide for them.
Only when we know that we are ready to deal with the repercussions of our own decision, we would have the confidence to make decisions or else,it the same as always we look for others to decide for us
so that blame can be put on them
later when things go wrong
we see this a lot in a team where there is always high pressure and some imp decision has to be taken at critical times.
I can so relate to it,
especially with girls
we are never allowed to decide for ourselves
as kids its always parents and then after marriage its husband and in-laws and when they grow old its their kids who decide for them.
Only when we know that we are ready to deal with the repercussions of our own decision, we would have the confidence to make decisions or else, its the same as always we look for others to decide for us,so that blame can be put on them later when things go wrong.
we see this a lot in a team where there is always high pressure and some imp decision has to be taken at critical times.
Leave alone being over-protective, modern parents do not make the kids understand the value of hard work and money!! They literally bribe the kids, you score this much or do this, I ll buy you that!! This has a deep negative impression on the kid's mind and he begins to think materialistic. Modern parents do not also inculcate the spirituality too!! The kid grows up, may achieve and succeed but will never feel the completeness in his/her life!!
Interesting Perspective Shruthi...
One of my friends - Mr Robinson also sent across an article he read in Deccanherald: http://www.deccanherald.com/content/369433/digital-disorder-driving-lives-away.html
While it is extremely easy to confuse my argument to be against technology, it is really not so - technology no doubt eases a lot of the effort one could put in - it is really doing what we do well that is the crux of my argument.
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